Pornography undermining boys’ respect for girls, victims and teachers say UK News
A woman who was sexually abused and raped as a child has waived her right to anonymity to speak out against the harmful effects of easily accessible pornography.
Dandy Doherty says she was sexually assaulted when she was 11 and raped when she was 15 – and that her perpetrators were her age.
She is one of many contributors to the Everyone Is Invited website, but she has waived anonymity because she feels that school and parenting inaction has been “shabby” to create a culture of abuse.
More than 14,000 allegations have now been made by students on the websitewho collects evidence of sexual violence and sexual abuse.
“Consent must be discussed at a young age,” says Dandy.
“Pornography has to be talked about from a young age.
“It is not inappropriate to talk to a 10 year old about sex. It is inappropriate for a 10 year old to see fake sex online and think that it is normal.
“That’s the bad part. It shouldn’t be awkward having this conversation.”
“I was sexually assaulted for the first time when I was 11, 12, and 13 years old by boys aged 11, 12 and 13,” she continues.
“I didn’t say anything about it at the time, I had no words for it. I didn’t understand it.
“I didn’t know sexual assault was a thing – I looked it up after I was raped.”
On Thursday, the National Education Union (NEW) discussed the topic at their virtual annual conference.
NEU general secretary Mary Bousted told Sky News that school child behavior has been “corrupted” and “declined” due to social media and access to pornography.
She said, “It turned out the way it is,” and the teachers in our service said they weren’t sure how to deal with it and “if I stopped and dealt with it all the time, I would never get lessons “. .
“So we need a national program to help schools fight this behavior.”
Dr. Bousted added, “I think we went back on that one.
“I think the way girls are treated on social media, the fact that so many boys watch porn, has really corrupted the way boys and girls think about each other.
“It has lowered girls’ expectations of how boys should treat them and has allowed too many boys to believe that girls are just objects.”
The students themselves now ask questions about when behavior changes from natural sexual curiosity to abuse.
The landscape of interaction is constantly changing. Schools and parents are struggling to keep up with new forms of online communication.
A new Instagram account called Screen Grab Them invites victims to post abusive text and Snapchats that show that all too often the harassment is obvious.
The messages contain rape threats, often when a boy’s advances are denied.
There are also derogatory conversations.
In one, a girl is told, “Love, I’m scared to say it, but no one is going to rape you.”
She replies and asks, “Are you saying that I have the privilege of someone raping me?”
He says, “No – you would be lucky.”
Ofsted has announced that it will “visit a sample of schools and colleges that highlighted cases” as part of its emergency review.
Amanda Spielman, director of Ofsted, told Sky News: “I am so concerned that so many of these young people have felt unable to tell their school what happened to them.
“We need to understand these negative incentives for reporting because a lot of these schools think they have good ways – people kids can trust to talk to – and yet somehow it isn’t, it doesn’t always add up .
“So how do we make sure that the pieces result in something that gives young people the confidence to report and talk about these things.”
Young women like Dandy hope that tomorrow’s children won’t have to experience what they did when they share their darkest childhood memories.